It’s tough being bisexual, and having to battle the stereotype that you are just greedy, or that you are simply confused about your sexuality. Recently, bisexuality has been under additional scrutiny, as Jessie J declared herself straight on Twitter, claiming that her dabble in bisexuality was just a phase.
Jessie J’s recent ‘coming out’ as straight has caused quite a stir in the media and, as with most other news articles that report on an individual’s sexuality, the public are questioning it’s relevance.
I agree that declaring ones sexuality is often quite irrelevant and unnecessary, whether it be Jessie J, Ellie Goulding, or any other young pop singer.
However, when one publicly declares themselves to be bisexual, when there are very few public figures who openly identify as LGBT, they then automatically become an ambassador for said sexuality.
Due to the controversy that still surrounds the morality of legalising gay marriage, there is additional pressure placed on gay families to portray a more picturesque image, representing a happy and healthy home.
Conversely, any individual’s who do not display perfection, and who perhaps divorce or become caught in a bitter custody battle, are held up for example of how destructive homosexual lifestyles are.
Therefore, when Jessie J publicly declared on a chat show that she identified as bisexual, and stated that she had previously dated men and women, her life became a living representation of bisexuality.
Other individuals who identified as bisexual now looked to Jessie as a role-model and someone who reflected their own lives to some extent; she was to show the public how you don’t necessarily have to be heterosexual to live a normal life, or to have normal relationships.
However, as Jessie jumped right back into that closet, she then became a living representation of the fickle bisexual phase.
However, it is not just the heterosexual community that hold these stereotypical assumptions. This video about a fictitious lesbian first date also highlights how the bisexual stigma has transcended into the gay community:
Though the short video is extremely funny, the bisexual joke (along with the foundation of nearly all other comedic skits or material) was formed through a common shared experience, and the end scene tells a true story of how bisexuality is viewed within much of the gay community: bisexual = straight.
For example, if I was to learn that someone I fancied or was romantically interested in was bisexual, it would (and has) cause me to question whether I want to begin a relationship with that person, and that is an issue.
It is hard to pin-point an exact reason as to why this is, I suppose jealousy is something that initially comes to mind, but where did this bisexual stigma come from?
Perhaps it began as being bisexual was used as a selling point among public figures and celebrities – this product is available for everyone!
There began this belief and assumption that bisexuals are overly promiscuous and would be unfaithful; it isn’t about the possibility of falling in love with one person of either gender, bisexuality is wanting every person of both genders.
Perhaps this is why the bisexual, and even some of the gay community, have taken this recent media frenzy so personally, as the life decisions of many are scrutinised and judged upon the actions of only a few.